Where Laughter Meets Lunacy » Family http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog Rantings of a semi-crazed 20 something who has yet to find her place in life Sat, 21 Aug 2010 01:37:44 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Help? http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2010/08/20/help/ http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2010/08/20/help/#comments Sat, 21 Aug 2010 01:37:44 +0000 Jayme http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/?p=128 Isn’t there anyone out there that can teach me how to deal with stupidness without wanting to scream? I’m tired of people saying “Just don’t let things bother you.” Motherfucker if I knew how to “Just not let things bother me” would I be asking for help right now? Probably not! I don’t want to end up like my mother, but I’m starting to fear that’s exactly where I’m headed.

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I have blind copied several people on this since may apply to many of us.

Careless Facebook use may cost you a job

Thoughtless posting to SNS dangerous at the best of times

By J Mark Lytle, Tokyo

20 hours ago | Tell us what you think [ 3 comments ]

Generally, stating the obvious is a very annoying habit of far too many people, however when it comes to commonsense and social networking it seems like the imperative to be sensible is well worth repeating.

The latest example of what not to do online comes from a Reuters report advising us all not to give away too much on FaceBook or Twitter in case prospective employers find out about it.

Dead dogs

It cites a PR specialist, pointing out FaceBook posts about, “colonoscopies, dead teeth pulled, dead dogs, flatulence, adult acne, marital breakups, battles with mental illnesses and drinking problems.”

Going on to put that avalanche of banality in the context of someone looking for a new job, it concludes: “If this information can make friends cringe… imagine the impression it would make on a potential employer.”

Drugs as well

Throw in examples of people posting photos of themselves smoking drugs and making racist and/or sexist jokes and you have a pretty bleak picture of an online confederacy of dunces who’d likely never get up most days, never mind find a job.

Our advice, for what it’s worth – next time you’re considering putting anything at all personal online, just don’t; it’s tedious for us to read and might just stop you from snaring that big fat contract.

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I love the “I have blind copied several people on this since may apply to many of us.” part. I’m sorry but if you have something to say to me just come out and say it instead of “blind copying” stupidly obvious “news” articles in an e-mail. Last time I checked we were all adults here, even though we are not always treated as so. And another thing, if you are stupid enough to post on the internet about your drug use you don’t deserve to have a job anyway. Compared to most people I don’t have anything to hide or anything that would freak out any future employers. The only strike against me I have going right now is anxiety from my current job which I’m told most people can’t last a month at, let alone almost six. I am not one of those people that conceals parts about myself to please others, take me as I am or GTFO. I would love to see the look on this family member’s face if they read some of the things on this blog, heh. My family doesn’t seem to even care about my regular web page so I think it’s safe to say they’d never visit this lovely space I have created, probably for the best anyway since a number of them don’t seem to take reality very well. It’s a shame people are so uncomfortable with people being themselves. End rant.

]]> http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2009/08/08/e-mail/feed/ 0 Meh http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2009/03/01/meh/ http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2009/03/01/meh/#comments Sun, 01 Mar 2009 18:26:11 +0000 Jayme http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/?p=39 It’s been so long since I’ve logged into my blog I’m amazed I even remembered the correct password on the first try. I am trying to stay semi-positive about life but sometimes it is harder than others. I know I really don’t have any right to complain, I am a lot better off than some people, still, it’s hard sometimes. I have a wonderful husband, two great cats, despite the fact they are moody and downright cantankerous (I don’t usual use those big fancy words, but it’s a fun one) at times. I have a loving, supportive family, and a great dad who is currently supporting me and previously mentioned wonderful husband and cantankerous cat children. I am not normally the type of person to ask for help or have others take care of me, so this past year has been very difficult for me to deal with. I am so very thankful for my dad taking us all in and taking care of us, but at the same time I feel like a horrible useless freeloader. I have been applying for job after job, all of which I am more than qualified for, but have yet to land anything. I try to avoid the jobs closely linked with family members just because I don’t know how long we will be here and I don’t want to let anyone down if we decide to up and move away in the near future. People keep telling me it’s just the economy but at times it’s hard not to think maybe I just suck somehow and no one wants me. I have literally been blown off by two companies now, it gets to the point where they just don’t return calls.  So here I sit, on another cold cloudy Oregon morning, sitting in front on my computer with tears running down my face. I don’t even know what to do anymore. I have just finished another online application, maybe this one will be the one. I also wonder sometimes if maybe my aunt and uncle are right, maybe this inability to land a job is a sign that we just shouldn’t be here, we need to get out of the valley and start fresh somewhere new. Everyone knows we don’t want to live here forever, we had just hoped to be able to save up and plan for our next move, unlike the last one where we fled like murder witnesses just to make it out alive. Come this June Dave and I will have been married for 3 years. It’s been a non-stop roller coaster ride of joy and heartache. Unlike most some couples the heartache doesn’t come from our relationship though, it’s all from non-marital sources. I don’t think I could have survived these last few years without Dave, he helps keep me sane and doesn’t let me forget that everything will be fine someday, we just have to make it through these rough patches of road. When I am bored and down I look at houses for sale online and dream of one day having a house of our very own for the cats to play in, and hopefully human children as well someday. I haven’t quite decided if this is good or not, it does inspire me to get there, but also depresses me because we are far from there. Sometimes Most of the time I just want to run away and start over somewhere new, but then I feel bad for the family I would be leaving behind. I appreciate all they have down for us and I would miss them so much, but I just want a fresh start, a new place where the bad memories of various parts of my past might stop haunting me. Not to say there aren’t any good memories here, it’s just the bad ones are the ones that forever haunt me in my nightmares. I just want us to be happy. And I don’t want to be a burden to the people I love. Reading one plus two inspires me to up and take off, but then I remind myself that her move was long thought out and well planned, I would just be flying by the seat of my pants, something I have been doing a lot of lately though I suppose.  I listen to this song way too much also. I mean hell, we’ve already up and ran off to try and start over once, of course that was a truly horrific experience, but wherever we choose to go next can’t possibly be as awful as that whole thing was. *knocks on wood* At least I got to meet a few great people down there in CA, although not the ones I expected. Well I’ve been up for a few hours now and have yet to make it more than 3 feet from the bed so I suppose I will end this here for now and go make some tea, hit the shower, etc. Maybe I will  have an epiphany in the shower and all answers for what to do in life will come rushing into my poor, tired, scrambled brain, heh.

]]> http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2009/03/01/meh/feed/ 0 Are you serious? http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2009/01/29/are-you-serious/ http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/2009/01/29/are-you-serious/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2009 20:49:05 +0000 Jayme http://the-bandys.net/jayme/blog/?p=19 Ok, so I’m one of those people that really despises those forwarded “informative” and “chain letter” type e-mails. You know the ones I’m talking about, “Click here to read about this new virus that’s spreading like wild fire!” Are you fucking stupid?!?! Or the “Forward this to 10 people to support your troops.” Come on! For one, why in the hell do you think it would be a good idea to follow an unknown link to “read” about a horrible virus, if people really wanted to warn you about something horrible why wouldn’t they just put the details in the e-mail in the first place in plain text so you wouldn’t have to venture out into the scary WWW and risk getting a virus there? Here’s a thought, install a good fucking AV program (not a P.O.S. one you pay $50 fucking dollars for at your neighborhood office supply store) and don’t click “Yes” or “Install Now” on every fucking pop-up that happens to make it in front of your face. When some random ass pop-up tells you your computer has been infected with a virus and if you don’t “Click Now” the world as you know it is going to end and there are dancing chickens chickenaround the window, IT’S PROBABLY NOT A GOOD IDEA TO CLICK IT, don’t rely on the word of a dancing chicken! And as far as the troops go, guilt tripping people into sending forwarded e-mails of any kind = teh suck! I support our troops, I feel bad for everything they have to deal with everyday, it fucking sucks, and things like that shouldn’t happen, but they do, this is how the world works thanks to human nature. If people need to be sent an e-mail to make sure they know the sacrifices that are made everyday by other people for certain things, maybe they need to GROW A BRAIN. I don’t get out much, or watch the news, but you’d have to be an absolute moron to not know all the horrible things that are happening all over the world. I know what’s happening and I choose to hide in my cave and hope that horrible things like those that are going on everywhere in the world don’t happen to me or the people and animals I love. I don’t have the nerves to go charging off to other countries (or right outside my own door for that matter) and try to stop all the horrible things that happen, I am way too fucking nervous and jumpy, I’d probably have a heart attack 5 minutes in, or eat my own hand, who really knows. When more shit happens to fly my way, you can be damn sure I’ll take care of it, but I’m not about to go chasing it around. I am very thankful there are people out there more stone-like that can handle that shit and try to make the world a safer place. Anyway…. I do not respond well to guilt trips or threats and you know what, I totally fucking deleted those e-mails and I don’t feel a bit bad for it. If you get an e-mail with a message in it you feel is powerful or important, fine, take the part out that you feel is good and send it, but please leave the “guilt tripping, chain letter, send this to 10 people or the world will implode” shit out if you want me to even look at it. Yes it may take an extra couple of minutes, but if you really want people like me to read it, take the time, or I will hit that delete button so fast it’ll make your head spin. Now that I’ve totally gone off on the subject, let me enlighten you as to why. I got this e-mail today and knew it had to be posted up on my blog, it was just too awesome not to be. And so I bring you “Are you fucking seriously forwarding this, and without even an apology for all the other forwarded crap you’ve sent?”

For Serious?

For Serious?

If you are one of the people that sends me these e-mails, don’t worry, I’m not mad at you, I still love you. If getting these kinds of e-mails from others makes you feel happy, warm, and cuddly inside, that’s great, you just keep on forwarding them to everyone in your address book. But if you get them, and feel a twinge of “great, thanks for sending this to me, now I have to trouble everyone I know with it or the world is going to come crashing down on me” I urge you, DON’T BE A SLAVE TO THE FORWARD BUTTON, dare to be different, hit DELETE instead, I know it’s scary, but it will feel good not being a sheep. Baaaaaa.

nosheep

And vote for Attack of the Redneck Mommy as Best Canadian Blog in the 2009 Bloggies, because how could you not after reading a hilarious post like this?

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